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Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too. Fisher was born in Connecticut in , one of identical twins, a fact that fired her interest in why we are alike and, of course, why we are different. For the record, she and her sister share the same personality type. She has no children but was married briefly in her early twenties and has had several long-term relationships since. Her partner of 30 years recently died of throat cancer; she wells up talking about him.
He was 21 years older than me. I found him endlessly fascinating. Fisher may be in her sixties but she has the spirit of someone much younger. One of them is a big man about town in New York. Over the years Fisher has seen many shifts behind the way that we date, and two in particular. The second one is women piling into the job market. I think that has dramatically changed sexual relations.
Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to. In my day the only real career path that you had was to get married. So we have extended adolescence in that way. I talk to Fisher about the problems facing twentysomething women like me — worries about finding men and keeping them and the concern that we will work too hard professionally and leave it too late and then wake up one morning and find ourselves lonely and childless.
It is estimated that by next year there will be 16 million single men and women in Britain. And yet Fisher thinks that there are many reasons to be positive. They actually fall far more quickly in love than us. And I think that just as we come to understand women more, we will come to understand men more, too. Far from thinking that my generation is in a pickle, Fisher says she is really quite optimistic about how relationships are changing. I mean, that old thing about meeting people in bars. Whoever met someone in a bar and then stayed with them? You know nothing about them; if they are even single or not.
Fisher thinks that the choices we have now are incredible. But today you are allowed to be yourself, you can pick the man you want, you can choose not to have children. For thousands of years women did not have these choices. The double-income family was the rule. Women tended to have two to three husbands, and trial marriages, which is essentially living with someone as we do now. It was only with the invention of the plough 10, years ago that women began staying at home.
I know who I am and what I'm worth. My man tried most of these games with me because he's always done this with women. He's a player, rake, womanizer, romeo, cad, all those names would fit him well. I am a player too I know these games well. I chew up and spit out players ; So, with both of us being "players" we managed to find real and true and lasting love! Come to think of it, why would I do that? Listen, I play mind games just for fun. I've said that before. I play mind games with everybody. I enjoy making you wonder. I love and want to see your reaction when I push your buttons.
I just love making you think plus listening in to that cranking sound of your busy brain as I make you do the mental gymnastic over and over. Yeah, I thrive on mental stimulation! And yes, in relationships, I also use mind games to check how emotional and independent you can get. Ergo, I just love and will always prefer independent and strong willed women over the clingy, insecure, crybaby types. I have so many other things of interest to do than seeking for some woman or women to control.
Yes, Miss moi is right. Keep the fire alive. Come up with your own games and pranks. Show me that your awesome brainpower. OMG, I love these things. I will stay tuned! You recognize the pattern there? And then you start hurting. Just look how you angrily and hurriedly posted three good times just to get your one point across!
And you know what? Some buttons are just too easy to push! Hmmm… three good years after writing this hub and the fun is still this unbelievably undiluted. Okay baby, now listen. Something you should know. Everybody is not the same. You need to come out of your own world first to see this for yourself.
You may not be down with mind games, I know, but trust me on this; there are so many women who are. They just love the drama, the suspense and the mystery. They want a challenge. Babe, please wake up and look up and stop being stereotypical! I wonder what makes you think mind games is strictly a woman affair only.
Men and women equally play mind games. And like I stated earlier, they all play it for different reasons. See it for what it is and not for what you want it to be. Of course, I know you do! And please make sure you always dump and drop all of them on their silly big heads hard on a concrete floor, okay? Also while you are at it, please also remember to kick out at their heads very hard. Smash it against the wall. Bust, split or crack it open. Do whatever you like—with all of them bad guys in your life. You have my support any day any time, okay? Then repeat as many times as you want!
And hey… wait… just make sure you climb faster and higher this time around, okay… hello…? Are you listening to me…? On the other hand i understand how some "games " happen naturally when the man instinctlevely feels the need to see whether this girl is the one for him A man can be genuine but feels the pressure of the relationship and needs to know that the girl is not going to walk all over him by asking constantly he does as she wants etc Ultimately, when he starts playing games, it means, he wants an excuse to check out eventually at some point It is a sad reality.
Most players are not happy, because in order to keep a girl, they have to play games and trust me, it is not easier on them either because they work double on their "skills" to test the water That's when, the "unecessary"game turns into something toxic For women, we never know truly a man until he starts being himself. The funny dynamic is, a woman feels challenged, we endure, try to show him how we care, because that's our nature..
Two can play at that game Mr. I'm Kinda going through this now and instead of acting concerned, I will be flirting right in front of him with the boy toy who works the desk, in a very subtle way. Last time he did this game playing with me I made him feel so stupid lol. He knows I have options. He's gonna have to get past his insecurities if he wants my loyalty ;- ;-. Let's think about it, isn't it a shame to have had a woman to dump you before you could even kiss her goodbye?
In fact, it is very pathetic! It is even more pathetic when you have fallen for her, every thoughts about her will make you desire her more and more, and you know all these are just wishful thinkings of yours. You really got me there with that very statement! You must be such a very strong woman for you to have realized how the 'game' is being played. Kudos to you but just so you know, the 'game' keeps on changing so your best bet is to keep getting smarter and smarter so as to remain one or two or three steps ahead Until we meet each other, hopefully, someday, who knows, and cancel each other out, huh?
I know you'll like that and I know I'll like that too 'cause I really need and want to fall harder and harder for someone like thee who knows the 'game' inside out! I've had one good-looking guy interested in me and asked me out to a party 1 month after we first met. Just like many typical insecure guys out there who is unashamed of pulling these mind games, he blatantly went intimate with another girl in the party just to see if I care enough to intervene. Unlike many girls out there who would succumb, I purposely looked toward his direction and gave him a smile, just to let him know that I'm aware of his act, and continued chatting with people I met in the party, of course, I maintained my calm and confident demeanor.
He found me sexy for not giving shit, and was definitely impressed by my confidence. He asked me out for another date. As a woman with dignity, I rejected without giving any explanations. Now, he has been asking around about me I'm not friends with him on Facebook and obviously, he sees me as a challenge and wants to get me but unfortunately, he's just going to fall harder and harder whenever he thinks of me.
So guys, don't ever think that mind games can get you what you want when it comes to any women like me, cuz' we are smart enough to see through your insecurities and your old tricks, and we'll fucking ditch you and move on, leaving you desperate for us. Alright directgirl, in my own opinion, a hook up might pretend that part simply because he does not trust that you are just okay with the sex alone. Your hinting that will even make him more confused. You'll agree with me that quite unlike men, I'd say most women want the sex plus the intimacy.
So pretense might as well be a result of trying to fake that supply of intimacy so as to get laid. Naturally, people like to obtain 'favors' from others. At times, the process involved could be covert or subtle manipulation in the form of persuasion or pretense. Wanting you to swoon over them is just another way of furthering their agenda because you will be hypnotized, sort of, and you'll be subconsciously convinced that you need them the more and thus, you will be so much ready and willing to be satisfying their selfish needs because they know that in most cases, we feel good whenever we do something for someone we love.
Here's a question for you related to this but outside of the context of dating or a committed relationship. Why will a hook up pretend he's romantically into you? Even if you hint that you're fine with just sex? Why do people who clearly ONLY have you over when they are trying to satisfy their needs still want you to swoon over them? Would you say the game it's similar or has a different purpose? Ouch, recent comments are tough eh.
There needs to be a little game but the limit between play and pain is too risky. This is textbook emotional abuse and it's quite disgusting that you're endorsing it, and admit to even partaking in it yourself. Only a man-child would even entertain the idea of or see any reason to treat a woman like this, and those men certainly aren't worth anyone's time.
Pulling this bullshit on any woman with integrity and self respect will disengage her from you before the first phase of your mind games operation is even complete. I personally would dump you so fast your head would spin. See of remaining comments.
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These guys are what I call the real players. These real players or masters of the game have recognized how vulnerable emotions can make people, and they are using this shortcoming to their advantage. Yet other guys play games simply because—now, you must wait as I look over my shoulders to make sure no angry girl is close by because of what I am about to say next. Listen, a man may also be playing games simply because he knows it can be fun. Such a man may purposely stir the waters just to watch the fish react. Sometimes putting someone off balance can be satisfying. Mind Games and Their Hacks.
Are you interested in knowing how he could be springing that mind game on you? Based off of my own experience, here are some flags: Watch it, please, my dear girl. Did He Suddenly Stop Calling? Has He Become Inexplicably Aggressive? You start noticing that the nice guy you are used to has transformed into a violent stranger. And what does he do?
He acts as if he didn't notice anything. Almost as if she did not exist! This is the worst form of all the mind games he can ever play with a girl. Is He Flirting with Other Girls? There are three reasons he may be doing this, and I am afraid to say them, as they are not exactly what you are going to want to hear: He may be flirting with others in order to stoke your latent jealousy and make you more interested in him.
He could be flirting for fun now just to test the waters and see what your reaction would be like should he on one bright tempting day forget his boundaries and actually take things too far with another girl. He could also be doing it to send you the unspoken message that he is planning on calling it quits, and when he does, he will say that it is because he can no longer cope with your possessiveness. Is He Becoming Secretive? Suddenly, you notice your man is becoming more and more secretive.
Has He Become Disinterested in Sex? Your Opinion If someone is playing mind games on you, is he worth it? Yes, he's just pushing me so that we will grow with one another. No, if a man doesn't respect my emotions, it's over. Is he doing it mean-heartedly, or is he just feeling out the way I'd respond? Last Word Some people, in fact many people, hate the idea of someone playing mind games with them. Which might be true or not. Have You Ever Been Gamed? If someone has played on of the mind tricks on you, which one was it?
He started making unreasonable demands. He suddenly stopped calling. He gave me the silent treatment or would only speak in monosyllables. He became inexplicably aggressive. He refused to give me compliments. He started comparing me to other people. He was flirting with other girls. He became disinterested in sex. No, I haven't ever had anyone try anything on me. What do you do when you realize you're being played?
I call him out on it. I don't have time for games, and if he realizes that, he won't mess around. I give him a serving of what he's dishing out. After all, female players have their own tricks up their sleeves. I try to show him a little love. Guys don't need to test your emotions unless they feel insecure about them.
I let him know we're through. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and the one for me has a little respect. Narcissism and Personality Disorders. Again, I say' thank you ". That's a new one to me. Ha ha ha Well, even as you were going on your own way, thanks for stopping by, all the same. Guy does this shit to me, makes me want to shoot him in the dick.
Have your fun, but keep your finances, and children, and home out of it. Men in sexless marriages like to say they are like roommates. That is not my opinion, it's fact. Amongst intelligent people, this is referred to as abusive bullshit. THold The truth is that different people react in different ways. What works on one person may never work on the other person.
The key is to know who you're dealing with. I liked your story. Priscilla sultana Thanks Priscilla for reading. I'm glad you found it helpful. Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster. Is that why you are now Single-For-Ever? I'm glad you liked it, Wahida. So in other words, you're an abusive boyfriend. A Professional Con Artist.
I don't like the way it sounds at all. Your boyfriend seems to be the controlling and jealous type. You know what Tiana? Some people like playing mind games; some don't. Mary, you are not a man so why would you know the ONLY reason for playing such games? Anyway, that's your opinion. Very interesting and informative. Will be keeping one or two of these in mind. There's nothing funny about playing mind games. No more mind games. Ha ha ha ha No, no, no, seriously No more mind games!!! I think I will be addressing this issue in my next book.
Someone from somewhere who does not even know anything about me comes here and starts calling me all sorts of names… Well, I understand why you girls who are doing that are doing so, so now permit me to let you know why it amuses me. And it makes you so mad. And now you want to put the whole blame on me. For admitting that I do play mind games on women. So you start writing all sorts of rubbish and attacking my person. And of course, expecting me to keep quiet and take it like a man, right? Ha ha ha… Well, so let me tell you how this thing goes. How someone can do that is what still baffles me!
I truly appreciate this article. You must be a really tough lady. Something has to be done! Guess who he is? Ha ha ha… oh man, I love this!
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